I’m sure many of you understand all too well what it means to navigate through a life filled to the brim with obstacles. I, too, have been dealt a very tricky hand of cards. For much of my life, I played the victim role. You know, the “Why me?” mentality that led to depression and hopelessness. I’m writing now to tell you there is a better way!
You have every right to be mad. Some of you are trauma survivors, others have battled horrible physical and/or mental illnesses, and many of you have said goodbye far too soon to the person you loved more than anything. Don’t deny your pain. You are entitled to your feelings. Embrace the anger, the sadness, the feelings of betrayal, and channel these intense emotions into doing the next right thing. It’s not easy, but it’s the only way to truly cope with your obstacles.
I have learned to accept my past. I use my anger about my battle with an eating disorder, depression, and anxiety disorders to educate people of all ages, all over the world, about mental illness. I am currently in the healthiest place– mentally, physically, and spiritually– that I have ever experienced, and I believe this newfound health and joy is due largely to my commitment to changing my mentality. Yes, I have faced plenty of truly awful obstacles in my young life, but I refuse to let that define my current happiness and my success.
So, if you are tired of being the victim, embrace your pain! Do something about it. Spread the word about mental illness, grief, trauma– whatever the problem is, you have control over your actions surrounding it. You are a warrior, a hero, even when you don’t feel that way. Life is so much more than the difficulties we face, even when those obstacles feel like they will shatter us. I am proof that even the darkest nights can turn into the sunniest days.
I am sorry you have experienced such intense pain. My heart goes out to those of you who are facing tremendous battles. When you are ready, join me in turning pain into power. I believe in each and every one of you!