Guess what? I think I’m awesome. Actually, scratch that… I know I’m awesome. And it has taken me many, many years to be able to say this. I know I’m awesome because I have overcome the very disorder that tried to kill me throughout my childhood and adolescence, and because I genuinely want to turn my experience around to help others battling Ed. But even if I didn’t beat a life-threatening mental illness, I would still be awesome just because I am me. I like the person I am. I’ve worked incredibly hard to get back to my authentic self, and I wouldn’t trade the real me for anything.
Believing in the good inside you does not make you prideful, nor does it mean that you think you are too good for people. In fact, I still recognize many flaws in myself, even with this confidence. The difference is, I don’t let my flaws define me anymore. My flaws are a part of my human nature, and I embrace them because they keep me grounded. I love working to overcome the obstacles I face in my personality and behaviors because I yearn to improve, constantly. Improvement, when done in a healthy way, does not mean self-hatred and punishment. Rather, it means taking your core self by the hand and gently leading her to a better path.
You might be reading this and thinking, “Sure, she thinks she’s awesome, but I could never do that.” You could be right—if you don’t put effort into building your self-confidence, you might never think you are awesome. However, increasing your self-confidence is easier than you think, and I have broken it down into a few steps:
- Find one thing you genuinely like about yourself—it should be related to your personality, talents, gifts, etc., not your appearance.
- Write that one thing you like on a sticky note and put it on your mirror. Every time you look in that mirror, you must mentally repeat what you like about yourself.
- Practice meditation daily and remind yourself why you are inherently good. It may help to start with how your loved ones see you, but eventually, try to focus on the good you see in yourself.
- The more practice you get in consciously building up your confidence, the easier it will become for you to believe it without any conscious effort. So, practice, practice, practice!
- Go forth and share your awesome, confident self with the world!
See, it really isn’t impossible to become self-confident. Moreover, the more confidence you have, the better you will feel in daily life, even when a curveball comes your way. To those of you who are battling an eating disorder, confidence significantly helps your recovery—it certainly helped mine! And if you are already in recovery but want to take it a step further, this confidence can cross you over to being recovered, if that fits with how you see your progress.
In short, I know I’m awesome, and there’s nothing wrong with that. You, too, are awesome, and it’s about time you embraced how truly incredible you are. The world is a better place because you are in it—please don’t ever forget how valued and loved you are!